Thursday, 29 December 2016


New life
The media is full of predictions for the most popular baby names in 2017.

Apparently new parents are expected to zoom to the end of the alphabet and choose a name beginning with Z. Zander and Zephyr are likely to be huge for boys and Zyla and Zelda for girls.

Picking out a name for your baby, or making one up, is a big decision as any parent will tell you. After all, it will stay with them for the rest of their life. A name is the first thing that gives your newborn its identity and distinguishes it from others.

The same can be said of the baby naming ceremony that you create to formally welcome your little one to the world and introduce him or her to your family and friends.

Happy are we

That's why no two celebrant-led celebrations are the same.

I encourage parents to make their baby naming ceremony as personal and relevant as possible. Most ceremonies are held when the child is a few months old. By this time, little characteristics are already emerging. They will have a favourite toy, respond to certain music and they'll be communicating in ways that their parents can easily interpret. Family members will also have cute little nicknames for the latest addition to the family.

All these things make it easy and exciting to choose elements that are perfect for the little person who will have centre stage on the big day.

Everlasting keepsake
I performed a lovely, garden ceremony for a gorgeous little girl last summer whose mother was a vet and the family had several pets. The first time the little one had a giggling fit was when she watched her grandparents' dog destroying one of his toys. She also found it hilarious when the cats were told off for clawing the carpet.

Lovely snapshots of the little girl's personality shining through. Consequently, her baby naming ceremony included a section where everyone present was invited to put their fingerprint on a picture of a baby turtle. Their colourful ink prints created a mass of balloons. This was done to music - Mr. Turtle Lullaby Song - and was a moving and very special way to formally welcome her to the people who are special in her life.

Hush little baby
The completed picture is a beautiful, everlasting keepsake of the baby's special day and the people who shared it, that is now hanging on her nursery wall.

Every baby naming ceremony should be approached with the Zeal and Zest that new life deserves. Save the zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzs for bedtime!

Tuesday, 27 September 2016


We're all familiar with the real estate catch cry 'location, location, location.' It means a particular place or position is the most important factor in a home’s value.

There's a similar phrase for weddings, or at least there should be. 'Rehearse, rehearse, rehearse.' 
Getting hitched without a hitch

At no extra cost I like to set aside an hour or so, no more than a week before the big day, to run through the logistics. This is particularly important for larger weddings and those that include more elements.

A wedding rehearsal irons out any wrinkles and ensures that months, sometimes years, of meticulous planning result in a stress-free and truly wonderful day when the big day arrives.
Just hours away

It's not about rehearsing the entire script word for word - the bride and groom should have approved the content beforehand - it's about how, what, why, when and where.

For example, for the entrance of the bride part of the ceremony to run smoothly, everyone involved needs to know where and when to gather, in what order to line up, when to enter, how fast or slow, whether the music will play until it's finished or fade down once everyone is in place and where people sit or stand. Without some clear direction, this part of the wedding could become chaotic. 
Everyone knows their role

These sound like small things but they are so important. Here's another phrase: 'the devil is in the detail.'
Days after the rehearsal

I have attended wedding rehearsals where all sorts of issues were thankfully identified early on. At one I discovered the music had changed without my knowledge yet the script introduced the original song. 

At another, the photographer helpfully pointed out that if we were to stand where the couple originally planned it would have meant either the bride or groom would have been obscured, spoiling the photographs. At yet another, the processional was so short that the music would have ended shortly after it began.

In each case, identifying these potential challenges, obstacles or pitfalls in advance meant we were able to find a solution and overcome them, ensuring the couples got hitched without a hitch.

Wednesday, 22 June 2016


The chosen one
I’m increasingly being asked for ideas to involve guests more during wedding, vow renewal and baby naming ceremonies. Couples and parents are no longer happy to just ask a family member or special friend to do a reading. They want everyone present to participate. This can also ease the tricky situation of choosing someone to, say, read a poem at the risk of leaving others feeling rejected.

Here are some ideas that have worked well at ceremonies I’ve performed.

At a recent garden wedding, after the bride and groom had said their vows, I asked all their guests to repeat after me:

We promise to encourage / nurture and support / Peter and Lisa / in all that they do / as individuals / and as a couple.

We promise to tidy up / after the wedding celebrations / so that Peter and Lisa / can have snuggly time together.

Everyone loved joining in and the surprise “tidy up” promises raised a laugh.

All together now
At the same wedding, everyone was invited to sing Bruno Mars’ Just The Way You Are. The words to the upbeat song were on the back of the Order of Ceremony for guests who didn’t know the words.
Fingerprint seeds

Fingerprint trees or dandelion seeds are popular at both wedding and naming ceremonies. Guests create leaves on the tree branches, or dandelion seeds, with their fingerprints. Many craft shops sell coloured ink and all you need are some wet wipes to clean your fingers afterwards.

The finished picture is a lovely and very personal keepsake that you can frame and hang on the wall. It’s a reminder of all the people who celebrated yours or your child’s special day with you.

Time capsules are brilliant for baby namings. Ask everyone to bring something small to place in a box or container, to be opened on a special birthday. It could include photos, a pressed flower from your garden, postage stamp, newspaper clipping, receipt that shows the value of goods purchased at the time - anything at all. It’s fun to see all the creative things that people bring.
A matter of time

Similarly, when guests are invited to a baby naming they could be asked to bring a small card with their one word wish for the little one. They write their names on the card as well and these are collected in a special box at the ceremony. It will be opened in the future and the whole family can read the cards together. If it's a small gathering, guests can bring their favourite children's story book and say why they love it, thereby starting a library for the baby.

Dreams are made of sand
For babies born near the sea, or couples having their wedding on the coast, a sand ceremony is perfect. I gather the sand from local beaches, dry it in the oven and add coloured powder. The guests pour whichever colour sand they like into a glass bottle or jar. It makes a lovely ornament which is a constant reminder of the happy day.

Involve your guests as much as possible and be as creative as you like. They’ll appreciate the gesture and you’ll love the end result.

Tuesday, 23 February 2016


Are you impressed Mrs?
When we marry the love of our life, renew our wedding vows, welcome a new life into the world or farewell a loved one, we want to honour and express our love for them. And what better way to do that than with a serenade.

It's highly personal, it says 'you are the centre of my undivided attention' and it can be done any time, any place, anywhere. 

These guys, The Mariachis, are the best in the business. They're in huge demand at weddings, in particular, across the country when grooms want to impress their brides with a special "this is just for you" song, but don't have the voice or courage to do it themselves.

The head of the band, Salvador Jimenez Hernandez, serenaded his now wife when he proposed to her and several years later he sung at his sister-in-law's wedding in Kent. I'm his sister-in-law by the way!

Sealed with a song
They say music is food for the soul and I think you'll agree that when it's live it's so much better. And the beauty of a serenade is that it doesn't have to be limited to proposals, weddings and Valentine's Day. Why not say 'hi' to your new baby at a naming ceremony with a lullaby serenade? The guests would love it! 

A loving send off
And how about saying your final farewells to a loved one with a song. Funerals traditionally feature music at the beginning, middle and end and I've conducted ceremonies where a singer/musician has performed at the service. It definitely adds a personal and very special touch to the occasion and makes the ceremony much more meaningful. 

This is for you & only you
So if you think that a serenade is all about a bloke standing outside a woman's window, or below her balcony, belting out a song to win her love, think again.

It can be, and is, so much more. Music is an integral part of all major life events and serenading is a beautiful way to say I Love You.

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Saturday, 2 January 2016


Will you marry me?
New Year's Eve is now a more popular day for marriage proposals than Valentine's Day according to a national newspaper article I read on 31 December. Tens of thousands of British men are estimated to have asked the "big question" at or before midnight with roughly the same number of women replying with an emphatic 'yes!' 

Those same men and women - now brides and grooms to be - will start the new year by planning what is likely to be the biggest day of their lives. One of the first things on their "to do" list will be to find someone to conduct their wedding ceremony.

I'll be conducting a wedding in the Spring at a couple's home and not only will this significantly keep their costs down - they won't have to hire a venue - but, importantly, they can decorate their home as they like, celebrate at whatever time they want, and involve family and friends as much as they like in this highly personal event. 

These things are only possible because the couple in question have chosen a Celebrant to conduct their wedding. They'll visit their local Register Office a day or two before the big day to make their declaratory and contracting words before two witnesses - the legal bit - and then they are free to have a bespoke celebration - the fun bit!

Here are just some reasons why couples may want to choose a Celebrant rather than a Local Authority Registrar to officiate on their special day.

* You may want your wedding celebration to be held at a venue that doesn't have a licence to conduct weddings - art gallery, beach, home, museum, nightclub, restaurant, theatre, woodland - in which case a Registrar would not be able to perform the service. Not a problem for Celebrants though. 

Beach is beautiful
* Some of the larger licensed venues may also insist that you choose from their list of preferred suppliers - catering, flowers, music, table and chair decorations - and they may even have another wedding booked on the same day as yours. Do you really want to bump into another bride and groom on your special day? 

* A Celebrant will create a truly bespoke ceremony that is personal and meaningful to you. Anything goes. You will not be restricted in your choice of content, music and wording if you choose a Celebrant whereas a Registrar will offer you a limited number of standard scripts.

*There are no restrictions on how long your ceremony runs, or what time of day or night you hold it, with a Celebrant whereas ceremonies at a Register Office are booked in short time slots. Who wants to feel rushed on their big day?

* Once you've chosen your Celebrant you know exactly who's going to conduct your ceremony but you won't meet the Registrar who will perform your ceremony until the big day itself, unless you request and pay extra for a rehearsal beforehand. A rehearsal is included in my fee.

* A Celebrant led wedding will usually cost you a lot less than using a Local Authority Registrar.
Love is

It's a no brainer really. As an independent wedding Celebrant I will provide more choice for less money (depending on whether you choose to add any of the special ceremony elements listed on the fees page of my website) than a Registrar.

Planning your wedding should be a no holds barred, fun experience that doesn't break the bank so good luck and enjoy!